Your Local Commissary

If you haven't yet latched on to the idea of the tax free grocery bill, you must be rich and have actually uttered the phrase, "Oh, I don't know how to check my account balance online/on my phone/at all." Your local commissary not only has tax free groceries, toiletries, makeup and many other items readily available, but they've also got some of the best prices in town. If you're a Krazy Coupon Lady, like myself, this just became your second home. I've done my research, made spreadsheets, lied about actually spending my free time to make said spreadsheets, and let me tell you, even with most of the weekly sales other grocery stores do, buying it at the commissary is still cheaper. They even distribute their own military store coupons, although they are not updated very often. Combine the sales that the commissary has, with their own store coupons, and a manufacturer coupon, and you can get tons of stuff for pennies! Imagine getting a $100 worth of groceries for under $20! There are even ladies, more dedicated and with more free time than I, who get their groceries for free, or get PAID to take them out of the store. If that sounds good to you, then the commissary is where you should start. Even if you don't use coupons (for shame), numbers don't lie. The average family of four saves almost $4,500 a year just by shopping there! You can find a commissary near you by going here.

There are a few rules. You must have a valid military ID to purchase items there. Watch out military girlfriends, I was in your shoes for the first 2 years of my husbands career, and even if a Military wife gets you in, only SHE can pay at the checkout line. There are a lot of military base amenities that will bend the rules for you, or allow your married friend to 'sponsor' you (movie theater, gym), but the commissaries are usually pretty strict. Also, the hours are usually not late. Most close at 7pm, with the bigger ones open until 8pm. The bigger commissaries, of which there is usually one in every military town, with 3 or 4 smaller ones in other areas, for larger cities, have way more items than the smaller ones. So, if you're planning on a big run, go the extra mile and find the biggest one you can. Happy Hunting!

Military Poetry: Make It Yours

Few things move me like military poetry. For a military wife, those kind words seem to really tug at the heart strings. The authors seem to know what it really feels like to miss your sailor/soldier/marine/airman...ok, this is getting ridiculous. For obvious reasons, these poets can't include everyone's specific affinity with the military. So, I've found this poem for you, and I'd like you to make it your own and re-post it wherever you want...

Far Away

Oh my loved one, so far away
How I needed you at home today.
_____'s been crying for two weeks straight,
_______ at (insert age) went on his/her first date.

The ______ needs fixing, but money is tight,
Come next payday, it will be alright.
Angry words from the past have all been erased,
If only I could hold you, and feel your embrace.

Some days are better, but the nights seem so long,
In the corner of my mind, so many things can go wrong.
I must stand by my (insert spouses title), day after day,
And my prayers will be answered, and all is okay.

How I long for our love, to be together at last,
I'll wait for you patiently, for these dark days to pass.
When we meet again, our love will have grown,
With each deployment, we add strength that's unknown.

Oh my loved one, so far away,
How I long for you here today.

OPSEC

Since the holidays are coming up, I thought I'd take this time to talk about OPSEC, or 'operations security'. Basically, this concept teaches us one key fact: You never know who is listening. Yes, to some this may sound a bit paranoid, but let me be the first to tell you, they mean business. This is no laughing matter ladies. Ill-wishers all over the globe are just itching for you to post your sailor's deployment schedule on facebook, or to blog about your sailor's return home on such and such day. Be wary of posting comments like: "I can't believe my sailor is leaving for a 7 month deployment tomorrow morning!" This tells anyone with a bad mojo for the US Navy that there is a ship or submarine leaving tomorrow for a long deployment, and that ladies, is prime attack knowledge. Not good.

The main things you want to steer away from are:

• Posting any dates!
  
• Posting any locations, unless they have already left that specific location
• Posting any ship names corresponding with dates or locations

Now, there are still ways to post your feelings on the internet without giving away vital military info. Here are some examples of comments that are A-OK with the US navy...

• "I'm so excited to be seeing my sailor soon!" This lets everyone know that you haven't got much time left until you get to see your sailor, without giving away any specifics like dates, locations or even if you are flying out to see him somewhere without his ship coming home.
• "My sailor is gone and I'm missing him like crazy!" This says that your sailor is away, maybe on deployment, maybe just on duty, and that you miss him, which I'm sure you do! This way, no one knows when he left for sure, or for how long he'll be gone.

We want what's best for our loved ones, and keeping their deployment info on the down low is just another way we can do our part to keep them safe and out of harm's way!

Before He Leaves: Tip #3

If you are one of the lucky girls that get to be in your sailor's station before he leaves for a big deployment (4+ months), the information highway will be just few steps away. A few months before your sailor's deployment, there will be a pre-deployment brief near the base. This meeting is mostly for the spouses and family members being left to hold down the fort. Although, your sailor is required to attend, because the more you find out together, the better you will be able to plan. They will talk to you about OPSEC, preparations for his leaving, power of attorney, ways to cope whilst your loved ones are away and much more. One of the most vital things I learned about was monthly meetings that take place at a pre-designated location, to be decided by your local ombudsmen group. These meetings are for spouses and family members, and have daycare ready and on site to watch the kiddo's while you're being filled in on some much needed deployment updates. They'll let you in on possible docking dates, ship news, alerts, and even when your sailor is set to return home. Plus, it's just one more venue to meet other Navy wives who are going through just what you are! The more friends and support you have, the more the time will fly by, and you want to make this time as easy on yourself as you can!

Moving: Tip #1

When your sailor gets stationed somewhere new, your whole world can feel like an anxiety ridden time bomb. Should you move with him? Will your relationship make it if you try to handle long distance love? These are questions every military S.O. has asked herself when presented with this situation. The truth? There is no wrong answer here. Don't feel like you have to do anything. Whether you're married, engaged, or just committed to your man, this is a life altering decision that only you can make. Many women have left everything behind to follow their sailor from port to port. There are also tons of stories about women who made their long distance relationship soar. Ask yourself, what will make you happiest? I know you want to be with your sailor all the time, but keep in mind, he may be gone 6-9 months out of the year. You may also be thinking, 'hey, this is a great opportunity for me to see new places and faces!'

There are a few things to consider before you make your decision...

If you decide you want to go with him to his next station:

• If you're not married, he will most likely be assigned to live on the ship, and thus will not be receiving housing allowance. Their paychecks are not meant to sustain an apartment and living expenses without housing allowance. Even if you work too, depending on the city he goes to, it might not be feasible. (Places like San Diego and Hawaii are extremely expensive towns to live in, whereas Norfolk and Georgia are more affordable.)
• If you do move, he will likely be gone a lot. He will have duty on the ship/sub, meaning he will not come home some nights. Even if you're in town with him, be prepared for a lot of lonely days and nights.
• He may not be stationed there for as long as you think. It doesn't happen too often, but ships change ports, job skills are needed elsewhere and sometimes even disciplinary actions come into play. You might find yourself moving, with only weeks notice, across the country.
  

If you decide to stay home and wait...

• Military relationships are hard. Long distance military relationships are harder. Both of your lives will change. He'll start hanging out with new Navy buddies he meets at the new duty station. Some of them will be girls. When he's not on the ship, he'll want to get as far away from it as possible so he'll go out...a lot. You will both experience new social lives, but for the first time, without each other. Sometimes remembering to call and stay up to date with each others' lives will be difficult.
• When he is in port, plane tickets to go see him and visit for a week or too are expensive, and the visit will never be long enough.
• Be prepared for change. Everyone grows throughout their lives from the experiences they have and the influences around them. After being apart for a while, you both will start to grow into new people. Whether or not you grow into two people that can still love each other and function as a couple is up to fate.

There are always good points to both sides of the story as well. Don't be discouraged. If you decide to move with him, as I have done for the past 2 years, you will discover doors opening for you everywhere. You'll meet new people, experience new foods and places, and have fun exploring with your sailor when he's in port. Also, it's my opinion that I shouldn't miss one single second of time with him if I can. If he's not underway, I'm going to be attached to his hip! On the other hand, if you decide to wait for him at home, closer to your family and friends, which I am doing now for 3 months, there are upsides to that too. We are saving money, for one. Also, instead of being in a town that is unfamiliar to me while he's gone, I am surrounded by hometown comforts and people that care about me.

Whatever you decide to do, know that 'Love has no distance'. Deployments may separate you, but it should never divide you.

Pls Excuse My Absence...

Here's a great reward for your patience...

Things You Never Say To A Military S.O.

1. “Aren’t you afraid that he’ll be killed?”
This one ranks in at #1 on the “DUH” list. Of course we’re afraid. We’re terrified. The thought always lingers at the back of our minds —but thanks, genius, you just brought it back to the front. Maybe next, you can go ask someone with cancer if they’re scared of dying.

2. “I don’t know how you manage. I don’t think I could do it.”
This is intended to be a compliment. But it ends up just being annoying. Here’s why: it’s not like all of us military wives and gf's have been dreaming since childhood of the day we’d get to be anxious single moms who carry cell phones with us to the bathroom and in the shower. We’re not made of some mysterious matter that makes us more capable, we just got asked to take on a challenging job. So we rose to the challenge and found the strength to make sacrifices.

3. “At least he’s not in Iraq.”
This is the #1 most annoying comment for those whose husbands are in Afghanistan. What do they think is happening in Afghanistan? An international game of golf? Guys are fighting and dying over there!

4. “Do you think he’ll get to come home for Christmas/anniversary/birthday/birth of a child/wedding/family reunion, etc?”
Don’t you watch the news? No! They don’t get to come home for any of these things. Please don’t ask again.

5. “What are you going to do to keep yourself busy while he’s gone?”
Short answer: Try to keep my sanity. Maybe there’s a military wife out there who gets bored when her husband leaves, but I have yet to meet her. For the rest of us, those with & without children, we find ourselves having to be two people. That keeps us plenty busy. We do get lonely, but we don’t get bored, and drinking massive amounts of wine always helps keep you busy.

6. “How much longer does he have until he can get out?”
This one is annoying to many of us whether our husbands are deployed or not. Many of our husbands aren’t counting down the days until they “can” get out. Many of them keep signing back up again and again because they actually love what they do or they VOLUNTEER AGAIN and AGAIN to go back to Iraq bc there is work that needs to be done.

7. “This deployment shouldn’t be so bad, now that you’re used to it.”
Sure, we do learn coping skills and its true the more deployments you’ve gone through, the easier dealing with it becomes. And we figure out ways to make life go smoother while the guys are gone. But it never gets “easy” and the bullets and bombs don’t skip over our guys just because they’ve been there before. The worry never goes away.

8. “My husband had to go to Europe for business once for three weeks. I totally know what you’re going through.”
This one is similar to #2. Do not equate your husband’s three week trip to London/Omaha/Tokyo/etc. with a 12-15 month or more deployment to a war zone. Aside from the obvious time difference, nobody shot at your husband or tried to blow him up with an I.E.D., your husband could call home pretty much any time he wanted to, he flew comfortably on a commercial plane, slept between crisp white sheets and ate well, paying for everything with an expense account. There is no comparison. We do not feel bonded to you in the slightest because of this comment and, if anything, we probably resent you a bit for it. Comparing a 12 month combat deployment to a few weeks business trip is like comparing a shitty Ford Taurus with a Mercedes convertible.

9. “Wow, you must miss him!”
This one also gets another big “duh”. Of course we miss our men. There are some wives who do not and yeah, they’re now divorced.

10. “Well, he signed up for it, so it’s his own fault whatever happens over there."
Yes, you ignorant tool, he did sign up. Each and every day he protects your right to make stupid comments like that. He didn’t sign up and ask to be hit by anything, he signed up to protect his country. Oh, and by the way, he asked me to tell you that “You’re welcome.” He'd tell you himself, but he’s still fighting for your freedom.

11. “Don’t you miss sex! I couldn’t do it!”
Hmmm, no, I don’t miss sex. I’m a robot. Seriously.
Military spouses learn quickly that our relationships must be founded on something greater than sex. We learn to appreciate the important things, like simply hearing their voices, seeing their faces, being able to have dinner together every night. And the hard truth is, most relationships probably couldn’t withstand 12 months of sex deprivation.)

12. “Well in my opinion…..”
(This is where you interrupt them mid-sentence): Stop right there. Yo, I didn’t ask for you your personal political opinions. Hey, I love a heated political debate, but not in the grocery store, not in Jamba Juice, not at Dillards, not in a restaurant when I’m out with my girls trying to forget the war, and CERTAINLY NOT AT WORK. We tell co-workers about deployments so when we have to spend lunch hours running our asses off doing errands and taking care of the house, dog, and kids, they have an understanding. We do not tell co-workers and colleagues because we are giving them an invitation to ramble about politics or because we so eagerly want to hear how much they hate the President, especially while we’re trying to heat up our lean cuisines in the crappy office microwaves.

And last but not least….

13. “OH, that’s horrible…I’m so sorry!”
He’s doing his job and he’s tough. Don’t be sorry. Be appreciative and please take a moment out of your comfortable American lives to realize that our Marines and Sailors fight the wars abroad so those wars STAY abroad.

I found this on a discussion board and made a few ammendments & additions of my own to it. I wish I could print this out and when people ask me what my Sailor does, reach into my purse and hand them this - "I'm sorry, Military Policy dictates that you read this before speaking to all Military S.O.'s. Have a Nice Day!"

While He's Gone: Tip #3

Believe it or not, this is not my first rodeo, ladies. I actually have 4 other blogs that I run, purely for fun. I love to write, and it's something that is important to me. My Sailor likes to call it "my creative outlet", which I think is a lovely way to say: "Something to occupy my time when Abel is away." I would hope that I would draw a lot of readers to my blogs, but I am realistic enough to know that although I know my blogs are enjoyed by some, they are most likely not high on very many to-read lists.

That's why, when I asked my Sailor about one of my blog posts, I got upset when he hadn't read it. Then, we talked about it, and I will now share with you, my few but faithful readers, just what I learned from that conversation...

Your Sailor loves to keep up with what you are doing while he is away. It makes him feel like he's still a big part of your life. Just think how you would feel if an old friend of his came up to you at Wal-Mart and asked what he was up to nowadays, and you didn't really know! I don't know about you ladies, but I have to feel in-the-know. I hate feeling left out of anything, especially the love of my life's day-to-day. So, although he loves keeping informed on anything and everything to do with you, realize that his life is extremely busy. He'll have 18 hour days, uniform requirements to meet, inspections to prepare for, tests to study up on, problems & glitches to handle, and he still has to eat, sleep and breathe, too! He may be off for the night, but his day certainly won't end there. He'll catch up when he can, so don't make him feel worse that he can't be with you as much as he wants, even if it is only of the cyber nature.

Incidentally, once I accepted the fact that he would read it when he could, and stopped asking if he'd read it every time I posted something, he started surprising me with little quotes and comments about my blogs. And let me tell you, when I stopped getting my hopes up that he'd be able to read them all the time, it made the times he did read them, that much more special to me. (He even read my wedding blog! Now that's a sturdy Sailor.)

Happy Independence Day!

In honor of Independence Day this year, I am posting this lovely picture of Cake Pops, made with our Armed Forces in mind. Tomorrow will not only be a day to celebrate America's Independence, but also to thank all our Sailors, Soldiers, and Airmen for defending our nations Independence! This wonderful website, aptly named Bakerella, is a baking blog that I read on a daily basis.

Incidentally, (and you knew I was going to tie in some advice here) baking is a good hobby to take up while your Sailor is away, for multiple reasons.

• You are going to be bored with all that time on your hands, normally reserved for TLC time with your Sailor. Taking up a hobby is the key to keeping your sanity. You need something fun and fulfilling to occupy your time, and what better way to do that then by making something sweet that you can reward yourself with?!
• Baking can be so rewarding. It gives you a feeling of accomplishment that helps so much when you know your Sailor is contributing his whole life to service our country. This way, you can feel like you did something cool too!
• Speaking of helping out, if your Sailor is deployed, or in school, you can bake various sweet dishes and send them to him or his shipmates. If he's in school, make sure the package you send him is resealable, because only sealed packages of food are allowed in their rooms. There is NO outside food allowed at boot camp! Also, make sure the items you send can weather the trip, *pun intended! Remember, chocolate melts, dairy expires and dough dries out, so follow these tips from Treat The Troops, from a lady that has been baking for our troops since 1990!

Before He Leaves: Tip #2

I KNOW how hard it is going to be for you (it just about killed me), but try your very hardest to be strong and cry as little as possible. Now, I say as little as possible, because you are going to cry. There's a military wife saying out there that we use universally: "If you weren't emotional before, you will be now." That goes for the toughest chicks out there. But, saying that, every time he sees you cry, it kills him. It makes this whole situation that much harder for him. It's OK to let him know you're hurting, don't hide that or he'll think you don't care. But, try to keep it to a minimum.

A suggestion: When you start tearing up, bury your face in his shoulder and then when you come away, say something like: "I'm going to stay strong for you baby, I promise." He will love you more than you can ever know, just for trying.

If you cry all the time and fall apart, it will kill him to leave you because he will know you can't handle him leaving and your relationship may fail. This is even more difficult for him to take because he cannot be there to fix it if it all falls apart. One of the most frustrating things for him will be that he is in a position where he can't do anything about anything! If you are upset about something, or you have a problem or you're doubting whether or not you can do this, he'll be away at boot camp where he's completely helpless and doesn't even know when the next time he can talk to you is. If he thinks you might leave him, it will consume him and there's nothing he can do about it.

Bottom line, being his 'strong, surviving' girl will help him through this more than you can imagine. He'll know that while he's in boot camp, he can rest assured that you'll be here, taking care of yourself and waiting for him with open arms.

While He's Gone: Tip #2

Every time your sailor calls you, try to have a few things handy. I carried a small notepad in my purse, along with a pen, and a small list of addresses of his friends and family. Every time I would run in to a friend or family member of his, I would purposely get their address and write it down. Almost every time my sailor called, he would ask for an address, or ask about a friend or family member.

Also, there were numerous times when he would call and ask me to write something down for him. That's where the notepad came in handy. He asked me to write down different addresses of where he was staying, rank changes (and therefore name on the envelope changes), flight numbers, dates and very often, bank and bill pay information.

Now, remember, his phone calls will usually be pretty hurried, as they usually only get a few minutes to talk to you, and they have to squeeze information, schedules, updates and lovin' all in that short time! So, having all the necessary tools handy when he calls can only make things easier on the both of you.

The Day He Leaves: Tip #2

When it comes to his Cell Phone, strategy is key. When he goes to the hotel the night before he gets shipped off to boot camp, he will take an overnight bag with him. He should take his cell phone and his charger with him in his bag.

The next morning, he will go to whatever government building is designated to sign them in, swear them in, and ship them off. His bag will be checked into a room while they are being processed. Tell him to leave his cell phone in his bag. After he is sworn in, he will be allowed time with his family & friends to say goodbye. This could last anywhere from 10 minutes to 6 hours. This is the time when most sailors will hand their phones over to their families for safe keeping. I suggest not doing this. Tell him to keep his cell phone.

Over the next few months, you'll get very little contact with him, so trust me, every phone call counts. If he keeps his phone, you may get a call when they get to the airport and are waiting for their flight, when he lands, when they're driving from Chicago O'Hare Airport to Great Lakes (where the Naval Basic Training Facility is located, about 2 hours outside of Chicago). Finally, right when he gets to boot camp, he might be able to sneak a very brief phone call to let you know he arrived before they take his phone. I'm talking 5-10 seconds. Make sure he doesn't get caught! They'll then get one phone call home to let their family know they're OK, but usually it will be a direct call to the parents, whether your sailor wants to call you or not. So, having that cell phone will be key.

Now, of course, the second they get there, all of their possessions, including their bag, wallet, phone, and even the clothes on their back will be shoved in a box, and mailed home. So, the fact that he brought his cell phone won't get him in trouble. He will have kept in contact with you, and then have it mailed home. No harm done, and you got to talk your sailor through his trip to basic training.

Future Deployments: Tip #1

If your sailor is in the DEP program, or the 'Delayed Entry program', or is in boot camp or school and has not yet been deployed, you still have options regarding what his job may be, and in turn, how your communication will be delegated. Now, there are a few options that are available to you and your sailor, each with general rules for deployment lengths and phone/email availability. For instance, if your sailor decides to become a Submariner, chances are, his deployments will be shorter (typically around 3 months) than if he chooses to be on an Aircraft Carrier, which can last up to 8 months at a time! However, if he chooses the Aircraft Carrier, he will typically have access to phone and email (that means web cam too ladies!) every day. Whereas, if he chooses to be on a Sub, phone calls will be non-existent, and emails will be few and far between. The good thing is, that for Submarines, your sailor has to volunteer to be on board. So, the choice is up to you and your Sailor, and of course, these are typical schedules and always subject to change. In fact, last minute schedule changes are what Military Life is all about.

While He's Gone: Tip #1

This is more for you, ladies. While he's away, all sorts of emotions might begin to plague you. Personally, I walked around in a fog for the first few weeks. Here are two idea's on how to start feeling human again...

1. Throw yourself into your work. One of the main problems I had when my Sailor was gone...feeling unproductive! (of course that was before I had my blog to satisfy my creativity outlet) My sailor is off to boot camp or out at sea making the world a better place, seeing all the sights, and here I am, sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. I got a 2nd job, not only to pass the time, but also so that I could feel like I was doing my part to contribute to our life together. (Keep in mind that both were part time positions, and that 1 may be plenty for you!) Bottom line, the less time spent at home wallowing, the better.

2. When he first leaves, you may not feel much like going out, especially after you realize that a lot of people will treat you like he left you behind, with pitiful hugs and eggshell steps around your feelings, as if at any moment, you might pull a "Stellaaaaaaa!!" montage. However, give yourself about a week to mourn your everyday routine with your love, and then start calling up close friends. You don't need to hit up the club or go bar-hopping necessarily, but a night at the local Starbucks with a few close buddies can't hurt. Doing something you thoroughly enjoy with people who you trust to know how to treat you during a time like this will do your emotional status a world of good. Try eating at a quaint, comfy restaurant with your best friend (busy, high traffic, trendy places may make you feel lost and alone). Telling yourself that this is a good time to get back in touch with friends and family will help push you along.

Boot Camp Tip #2

This is probably the most important tip when writing those love letters to your sailor in boot camp. If you have a perfume that you always wear, or one that is your sailor's favorite, spritz it on each page of your letters. It makes the whole experience for him that much better. Plus, it reminds him of you, while he's looking at the picture of you that you sent him, along with the words he hears in your voice. To him, it's the next best thing to having you there! Note - hold the perfume bottle a good 12 inches from the letter when you spray it, spraying in a downward motion. This way, it isn't concentrated on one spot and is more of a mist. You don't want it making wet alcohol stains on your heart felt letter. If you wrote in pen, wait about 5 mins before spraying, or the alcohol could make the yet-to-dry ink run.

The Day He Leaves: Tip #1

When your sailor gets shipped off to the airport, to leave for basic training, he will most likely be allowed his overnight bag that he had with him at the hotel the night before. In boot camp, he is allowed pretty much nothing. I would suggest sending your loved one off with a picture of yourself. I know you will want to give him a big stack of pictures, maybe of his friends, family and of course, about 20 of you & him, but those are best left to be sent in future letters. Once he gets to boot camp, as I said, everything, including his wallet and anything else on him, will be taken from him and put in a box, and subsequently mailed back home. So, it would only make sense that he carry the single picture of you, just to have while he travels to boot camp that first day. Those first hours away from each other will be the hardest! So, that picture will be a great comfort, if not the only comfort to him during those grueling first hours.

A little hint though, they do allow him to carry a bible. Inside the jacket of the bible, write down yours and his mother's address, so he won't forget, and then a wee note telling him you love him. You don't want him forgetting your address, because you won't be able to write to him until he sends you a letter with his Rank/number and address.

Before He Leaves: Tip #1

For the weeks coming up to before your Sailor leaves for bootcamp or deployment, a lot of women start really pressuring themselves to make sure his last few weeks are 'special' and 'memorable'...which honestly, will make you go crazy that it won't be good enough. I wanted there to be no bad times, and nothing to go wrong so he would walk away with nothing but perfect memories of home, but most of all, of me. This is pretty much impossible ladies. Trust me when I say that he is having nervous and scary thoughts about leaving too, and the few weeks before he leaves, he is taking pleasure in the littlest things that you wouldn't even normally take notice of...like going to the bathroom whenever you want, eating an entire bag of chips in one sitting, and sleeping past 4am. In boot camp, he'll have so many liberties taken away that all he'll want to do is live life normally again.

Boot Camp Tip #1

When writing him letters, sneak a powdered drink mix into the envelope, between a few sheets of paper. He can pour it straight into his canteen, and no one's the wiser. Never pack it on the outside! You'll be able to see it through the envelope and that sort of defeats the purpose of 'sneaking it'. Remember, also, that you will most likely be packing a few pictures in there, as well as your letters, so more than one drink mix, and the letter could get suspiciously heavy.

Since they only have a few selections of beverages, this treat will remind them of home, and of course, how much you love them! Just make sure they're the individual packets that can be poured into a single water bottle. Gatorade, Crystal Light, Kool-Aid, Welch's, and Powerade all make them nowadays, even Hawaiian Punch makes them.

Some sailors will snitch in an attempt to get on the petty officer's good side, so make sure to tell your sailor to pour it in his canteen the second he gets it! (However, the jokes on the snitch, because they'll get labelled as 'rats' and will be singled out by the petty officers, which, in boot camp, in never a good thing!) If your sailor should get caught, the worst that can happen? He has to pour it out and you can send him another one. This is a known secret throughout boot camps, in all the branches of the military, so ask your man what he wants!

A Sailor's Wife...The Toughest Job in The Navy

This is the first post of my new blog, designed to help Navy friends everywhere. I will post daily tips, hints, links and updates designed to fill you in on all the secrets of being a Navy spouse, girlfriend, or maybe just a friend or family member. Everything you're going through, know that you are not alone and that I will do my very best to help you through it. If you have any questions or would like me to post a certain topic that might help us all learn more, please feel free to make the suggestion right here <----- on the message board and I will get right on it!

I'd like to take this blog-time to praise Military wives, husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends everywhere. You're not alone. There truly is no tougher job in the military than being the steady ground your soldier walks on. The air he breathes when the sand and heat are choking him. The cool ocean breeze that blows away his tears. The love his soul clings to when he feels alone in foreign lands. I am your rock. I love you. I am a Sailor's Gal.